Sleepover; is it time?

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Not so long ago,we had our first sleepover experience.

We were not prepared by all means to this experience.

I as a mom, did not prepare my homework properly and that is why i am sharing my thoughts with you.

My son, 7 and a half years old is the eldest of 3 kids. He is an example of matured, independent and self-esteemed child.

We took his decision for granted,when he had asked! We thought he is ready, and perhaps it is time. He asked to sleep at his best friend’s house.

We missed many obvious signs!

Before I list any do’s and Don’t’s; let us walk through a guideline for Sleepovers:

If you are a cautious, protective parent and live by the rules kind of parent (like myself), I propose setting some customized personal Guidelines for sleepovers, i will help suggesting a few:

  • when you open the Sleepover door, and from the night it is successful, you should expect for kids to ask for it more often, therefore:
  • Set some sleepover rules
    • When? (during a long holiday perhaps)
    • where? (only at specified friend’s house)
    • How? (after fulfilling school duties and responsibilities/ keeping good manners  and maintaining house living standards)
    • How often?  ( defining how often the kid is allowed a sleepover)
  • Encourage an open relationship and conversation between You and your child.
  • Remember Sleepover is a parental accessory.
  • There is no developmental necessity for this experience.
  • Grandparents Sleepovers are the Best Ever! (especially with Cousins around)!

That Being said, let’s resume The signs and plans..

First Sleepover Readiness Signs: 

  • Child asks for permission to sleepover.
  • Child has a history of changing beds, sleep places, due to travel, moving,etc…
  • Child has slept over without Parents at least once, at their grandparents house or a close relative/cousin.
  • Child has spent many hours at a friend house, without asking for you or telling you they missed you once you showed up.
  • Child sleeps through the night; they don’t wet the bed anymore, they don’t wake up for water frequently, they don’t have bad dreams.

Making sure all the above points are covered and 100% applicable; you have as a parent to look for deeper signs. The child usually do not understand the concept of a sleepover until the night falls.  We, as parents should prepare the child mentally and emotionally for this experience. Whether it is a first time or not, an open and honest conversation should take place and any signs of worry must be detected.

For example, After asking for permission to sleepover, My son was overly excited and prepared his bag the night before for his sleepover the next day! he had ask us if we can drop him over his friend’s first thing in the morning! He slept on time and tightly!

The next day, he came to my bed in the morning to tell me he had changed his mind, and since it was Daddy’s day off, it was not fair for his dad that he leaves the house and moreover sleep outside the house!

I have mistaken this statement for an anxiety towards the experience rather than believing it is a quite an upfront diplomatic decision.

He did not want to say “I AM NOT READY!”

Nevertheless, I “persuaded” him that it is okay; which leads me to the next step.

Signs of Anxiety:

  • No matter how close is the friend, it is always about your child;s feelings and decision.
  • Ask direct questions, listen carefully to the answers.
  • prepare your child emotionally and physically
    • Pack a letter, a written note.
    • Pack a small teddy bear or any comfort toy, pillow, blanket(or maybe your own scarf).
    • Ask for the day’s details and explain to your child.
  • Reassure your child and make sure he has the choice to come back home at anytime (Pick him up the first time he asks for it; don’t try to make him stay)

Preparation and Convenience:

If this is the first time your child experience a Sleepover, go through this checklist for flexibility:

  • It is better if the friend’s house is close to yours; if there will be a pick-up it wont be a hassle!!
  • DO NOT plan a night out! especially if friend’s house is far!
  • Make sure you read the signs or actually hear the “Please Pick Me Up”  correctly.
  • Do not force your child to stay, it is not related to the house he/she is staying at. it is merely a readiness state of mind!
  • Run a sleepover Trial:  at their grandparents, cousin, pajama night/party at a friend, late pick up of a play date.

Plan A Sleepover Rehearsal:

Role-Playing @ home or Throw him a sleepover party at the comfort of your own house.

  • Hang a paper with sleepover rules/plans
  • pretend that your house is the friend’s house/rules
  • Invite a close friend to sleepover
  • Throw a late night (10 pm) pajama party.
  • ask questions, or announce the itinerary
    • food to be served
    • cartoon/movie to be watched
    •  play-about
    • Announce or ask if there are pets at home
    • Sleep time
    • Next Morning Routine
    • Call home anytime (you can keep a phone with the kid for the night).

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It is imperative to remember that no matter how self-confident a child is, night time is a fraught.  Kids can’t distinguish dreams and reality, hypersensitive kids often daydream of situations and scenarios in a philosophical and argumentative thinking.

As a parent, we should reassure them that we will pick them up when they need to, that this experience is not a test they have to pass. Teaching your kids to take risks is an important act to do, but what is more important is that we always remember that they are Children and It Is OKAY to change their mind without culpability.

No matter how Close the family and the friend your kid’s will sleepover at, remember always, It is Not about them. It is Purely about your child Readiness!

Atelier Blanc, A story told through delicacy, fine taste and exquisite touch!

IT all started 3 years ago when two elegant ladies decided they want to be out there again. Yet, having three kids each of them Maya and Layal who were neighbors and became friends decided to plunge into a very personal business. Layal holds a degree in Graphic design and has over 12 years of experience in design and events organizing. Maya who holds a computer science degree and is experienced in Leadership programs mutates this passion to meet her mommy duties; she has the personal interactive skills that makes you want to create an occasion to have your giveaways and chocolates designed by this talented Duo. Although, they were looking for flexibility in working hours, trying to balance between work life and motherhood,  being your own boss is challenging and self motivating. As Maya states it, it stimulates your imagination in a way you didn’t know dreams do come true.

Thus, the creative designs and personalized giveaways. Atelier Blanc is a couture event creators. Their services varies as follows:

  • Personalized souvenirs, giveaways, goodies bags; they take care of every single detail down to the texture of the ribbon they put or the quality of the sticker they design.
  • Tables settings: If You have a dinner at home, you are planning a surprise baby shower, or throwing a birthday to a 7 years old or 77 years old, their refined taste got you covered. You can close your eyes and count on them, or you can open them wide and be involved, your personal choice is appreciated and attended. Atelier BLANC provide Candy tables at hospitals for new born and new mommas.
  • Baptism; first communion; newly wed; soft openings; Big weddings: Atelier Blanc takes part or takes over; your choice. 
  • Corporate? No problem; their experience in corporate needs make them the perfect tailor! 

    What makes their designs so unique?

    Being picky and perfectionist women they are; the Ladies behind Atelier blanc always take it a step further into the research! Following the trends of the season or creating themselves the Trend, they are always unique and custom made. Their products are one of kind in uniqueness; they never make the same item or copy themselves; they have the ability; creation, imagination and refined taste to customise,personalise, embody the customer vision within a  budget. 

    Therefore; whether your budget is limited or open; be sure your request is attended to carefully. 

    I personally call them sweet Therapist! 

    You have to meet with them to understand what I am talking about! 

    Everything is tailored and catered to the taste of the client. During the meeting; they listen carefully and interestingly to the client feelings and State of mind; trying to translate their needs into a unique product and one of a kind prodoctum. 

    As of the initiation of the meeting; research is a key feature in creativity, atelier blanc then put together an overall idea of what will the “vision” look like. At their Atelier; the immaculate stitches of colors and materials are merged; while on the run chasing for proper and adequate products to match the ideas proposed. 

    The chocolate they use is fine Belgian chocolate. Tasted and retasted; they always welcome clients feedback and customers different taste buds. 

    Atelier Blanc is a story of success engraving its name on the Walk of fame. 

    Batoul Arbid

    Kids-planet-Mag 

    FOKMO

    Fomo and Fokmo

     

     

    I came across a recent article that I found very interesting; it talks about two new terms that caught my ear when I heard myself saying them loud!

    By definition FOMO (FEAR OF MISSING OUT) it is an informal noun and means the anxiety or fear of missing-out on an event, seen or promoted on social media. Searching the web for an exact definition of FOMO led me to find out that it is a direct cousin to the word YOLO (YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE)! MY lord! I start wondering what kind of word we are living in; even our simplest sentences turned into handy acronyms… if we treat the language in such manners then how we treat our life! It made me think we are in rush living the maximum of events to the extent we do not have time to pronounce the actual sentence so we acronate it! Back to the subject, so FOMO and YOLO are related and they create another acronym in direct relation to parenting and kids FOKMO.

    FOKMO by definition is the fear of our kids missing out! NOWADAYS we tend to joggle the time like balls, if we could find some morning time before school to have an activity we would not spare it. FOKMO is not letting our kids missing any activity there is in the neighborhood with friends… joggling all possible in order to feel satisfaction towards ourselves considering the activity deprivation when we were young (comparing to nowadays activities for our kids). I am not here to judge any parent or anyone! I have fallen to this state of mind long before anyone! However, it is good to admit ONE’S mistakes and revise the situation.

     

    Pizza on a Bun

    We promised we will share some easy recipes. EVERY month or maybe every week if you’d like.

    This Week it is pizza in a bun.

    What you need is:

    • small Buns (whole-wheat is healthier)
    • Ketchup or red tomato sauce
    • Oregano or Zaatar
    • Pepperoni (optional)
    • Cheese ( Mozarrella; emmental; parmesan; cheddar) What you prefer or a Mix of all

    Let’s cook it

    Heat the oven to 200°  ( with mom or dad help)

     

    1. First cut the buns in half like you open it for a burger
    2. Empty the inner bread of the bun ( not too much)!
    3. Mix the Ketchup and Oregano and spread on bun
    4. Add the topping you would love (pepperoni)
    5. Top it with cheese
    6. Pop it in oven for 10 minutes

     

    ENJOY

    BON APPÉTIT

    *we will share different recipes for pizza in a bun

    Keep an eye on the Blog

    Necessity is Mother of Invention!

    “If you Can Dream it, You can Make it!”

    Walt Disney

    this Month, we are talking about things we can Create…

    If you look the articles, you will find the definition of Creating something.

    Walt Disney, the famous person who Created the “DISNEY KINGDOM” said that everything you imagine, create in your head, you can create it into reality.

    A very Long time before, Robots were considered something Alien, (not real)…

    A person thought what if we can create something that can help us, humans, to do things we cannot perform? And so the journey of creating Robots started.

    Necessity is Mother of Invention! “Plato”

    The very Famous and old philosopher PLATO said that what makes us create and invent something is our needs. The need to find a solution for a problem.

    The Need to go places fast, made human create the cars, bicycles, trains, airplanes, ships, boats, jets, motorcycles and many other transportation means, depending on how fats and how long the trip is.

    There are many inventions and Creations we can talk about, and the list never ends.

    How about, you share your thoughts with us and tell us about what you think the best invention is, and Why?

    Write to us, drop us a message or even take a short video and share it, we will publish what you have to say.

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    Create


    TO create is to do something. The first step is to Create the idea; to imagine the idea; to picture it in real aspects and dimensions. 

    CREATE is an art; if you draw a painting it is Creation of many images in your head into the paper… 

    Create is an act; an act of performing; of generating goods or emotions. 

    Create is musical; you can compose or create a symphony; or you can fabricate the instrument. 

    Create is Magical; you can plan and execute a story and act it on stage; or make it into a movie. 

    CREATE is bringing something to shape; you can mold some pottery into a mug or a plate or even a jug.  

    To Create is to Invent; to be innovative; to play a game or find a solution for a problem. 

    The Opposite of create is Destroy! 

    Now who can tell us the opposites of the many actions we just Created in the text?